The holidays are here, and with them comes a swirl of joy, nostalgia, and—if you’ve experienced betrayal—a mix of emotions that can feel like a blizzard in your heart. But here’s the thing: no matter what’s happened, you’re still standing. You’re here, and you’re fabulous. This holiday season, let’s shift the focus back to you. You deserve all the love and care in the world, and it starts with showing it to yourself.
Here are three unapologetically bold ways to make yourself the centerpiece of your own holiday story.
1. Own Your Self-Care Like the Queen You Are
This season, it’s all about you—because you’re the star of your own show, darling. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity, especially when life has thrown you a curveball.
Create your own vibe: Light those candles, fill up the tub, and let a bubble bath become your personal sanctuary. Or, if you’re feeling more fiery, crank up your favorite playlist and have a living-room dance party. Whatever makes you feel unstoppable, do it.
Rest unapologetically: Feeling drained? Then nap like royalty. Whether it’s a quick power snooze or a full-on Netflix-and-blanket day, your body and mind need the break, and you’ve earned it.
Feel all the feels: Let it out, queen. Cry if you need to, laugh when you want to, scream into a pillow if that’s your jam. Processing your emotions is the first step to truly healing—and that glowing version of you is on her way.
2. Set Boundaries Like a Boss
Boundaries are your best friend, and this is the season to draw the line with confidence. Protect your energy like the precious treasure it is.
Decline with flair: You don’t owe anyone your time or energy. Skip that holiday dinner that always ends in drama. Politely bow out with, “I’ve got plans for some much-needed me-time.”
Surround yourself with hype people: Spend time with those who make you feel amazing—friends who lift you up, family who truly sees you, or even your pet who thinks you’re the center of the universe. If they’re not rooting for you, they don’t get a seat at your table.
Curate your joy: What makes your soul sing? Maybe it’s a shopping spree, baking cookies, or bingeing your favorite holiday movies. Whatever it is, embrace it guilt-free.
3. Talk to Yourself Like You’re Your Own Hype Woman
When betrayal tries to cast a shadow, fight back with love—directed at yourself. You’re stronger than this, and you’re thriving, one day at a time.
Affirm your fabulousness: Look in the mirror and remind yourself of this truth: “I am more than what happened to me. I’m powerful, resilient, and glowing brighter every day.”
Celebrate every win: Got out of bed today? That’s a win. Made it through a tough moment without falling apart? Another win. Every small step is part of your incredible journey forward.
Treat yourself: Buy yourself that gift you’ve been eyeing. You’re worth every penny, and this is the year to remind yourself that your happiness matters.
Betrayal Doesn’t Define You—Your Comeback Does
The holidays can feel overwhelming when you’re healing, but they’re also the perfect time to reclaim your power and rewrite your story. You are not what happened to you—you are what you choose to become. And this season, you’re choosing to become someone stronger, brighter, and absolutely unstoppable.
Here’s to you, babe. To healing, to happiness, and to being the queen of your own holiday season. Now, go out there and sparkle like the star you are.
Cheers to loving yourself fiercely,
Loveli Brown
Holistic Mental Health Advocate, Author and Infidelity and Confidence Rebuilding Coach
LoveliEsteem, LLC
@loveliesteem
"Being able to articulate your feelings, wants, needs, and desires is the best way to advocate for yourself and the people that you love. This all starts with a conversation". Loveli xoxo
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